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Monday, April 6, 2009

The B Grown Files: Examine Your Relationships

The people that you choose to interact with on a regularly basis really make a significant impact on you, whether you realize it or not. Your current relationships speak volumes about you and where you’re heading in life. Continuous conflict, confusion, and drama are counter-productive to your progress and growth. So if you feel you have a bunch of two-faced, back-stabbing girlfriends, who are constantly hating (please don’t get constructive criticism confused with hating) & a bunch of trifling, good for nothing dudes -you really need to examine yourself, because in some cases you attract who you are (so, check yourself).

Stop trying to save damaged, strained relationships that really serve you nothing and just add stress to your life. Recognize when relationships need to be severed or downgraded. Subscribe to the good old-fashion three strikes and you’re out rule. Think about it, are you really going to give someone more than three chances to sh*t on you. A quick and fun way to examine your relationship is:

List your most significant relationship and answer the following for each relationship:

Friend: Kim
The (+):
Kim is fun, resourceful, trustworthy, and encouraging
The (-): Kim is selfish, needy, drains my energy, unreliable, and inconsistent
Kim’s purpose in my life: Now if you can’t answer this question……you already know!

Friend: Bret
The (+):
Bret is sexy, funny, engaging, and romantic
The (-): Bret is busy, a playboy, and a weed-head,
Bret’s purpose in my life: Now if you can’t answer this question……you already know!
B Grown Tip: If you’re like me, you probably have a diverse group of friends from ghetto-hood to straight snobbish and everything in between. Wouldn’t it be nice if they all got along? But never try to force your friends to like each other; it usually turns out to be a disaster.
Later, Mochas!


SistaWAHMs said...

I, unlike my sister Tiffany, am so quick to push someone out of my circle. We recently debated on if I was in the wrong for it or not, and you've confirmed - I'm right! At the end of the day it's all about tolerance, what you are willing to deal with and for how long. Three strikes is plenty of chances to give someone you care about and who cares about you. Clearly if after the first two times they've messed up and they still do it again, they're not worth your time, and they probably don't respect you. Loyalty is everything but respect is first. I guess it's just a matter of which one *you* value most. Thank you for posting the B Grown Files!